A great deal of the collapse of the Western church can be traced to a combination of white knights and overly-influential women. This is both a historical reality, and an ongoing pathology in most churches today.
All about how men and women relate and interrelate—from one-on-one dynamics, to society at large.
White knights are men who derive their value from defending damsels in distress against evil forces. They are willing to engage in a fantasy to achieve this—imagining evil women to be damsels, and good men to be dragons. This is a kind of arrested development caused by a failure to emotionally separate from their mother during adolescence.
Because God has designed men and women for distinct purposes, different experiences will “resonate” with our souls, and will cause or prevent connections between us. Reflecting on our simple, everyday experience is therefore important for understanding the deep differences between us. The mundane scenario of getting lost is therefore an instructive window into what God made men and women for, and how it affects our interactions with each other.
Feminism, egalitarianism, and even complementarianism are all simply new versions of androgynism—a doctrine at the heart of pagan religions, which images their denial of the creator/creature distinction.
The preoccupation with rightly dividing housework is a natural result of reducing the household from a place of existential identity to one of sentimental experience. Satisfaction and contentment with the labor of the house is impossible without first recovering God’s design for the house.
Because marriage can only work if a man is invested in his wife, men have a tendency to make women their source for approval. This is a bug that arises from a good feature. The solution is not to despise women’s influence, nor our call to rule; it is to balance both by placing ourselves under God’s rule and practicing his plan for marriage.
Feminism hates the power hierarchy that God has built into creation. But we cannot restore that hierarchy by hating it ourselves—and we do hate it.
There are three critical elements to marriage. If these are carefully tended, marriage itself is a strong and stable institution. If they are not, it is not.
Marriage is the norm that God established for men and women from the beginning, so to normalize singleness is to normalize the abnormal. There is no “gift” of singleness; there is only the gift of celibacy or the curse of singleness. The counsel in 1 Corinthians 7 is given explicitly as special advice to suspend the normal way of life because of persecution—not as general instructions for the entire church age.
To restore men’s confidence in what it means to be men, we need to work beyond individual performance and judgment. We must re-establish the kind of tacit cues that other cultures have taken for granted as shaping masculine (and feminine) expression.
The first installment of our serial guide to considering a possible helpmeet. Here we focus on what Scripture says about modesty in women, and how to apply this in the modern day.
Red pill gives us “how things are” without factoring in the fall or the power of redemption. That is its danger. Its benefit is found in a willingness to state things that feminized evangelicals refuse to admit are true.